How we connect and disconnect from each other gives us deep pathways into understanding ourselves. I passionately work with those exploring and finding their voice and identity through unpacking the many complexities of who we are and how we move in the world. Finding joy in how we show up, interrupt capitalism, and internalize often false sense of self and values that we carry with us from systems that grew us but did not always sustain us. I have moved in the non-profit, environmental, tech-startup, and clinical spaces, and all have informed and supported my work with others to understand how we find softness and ease in some places and can desolve in others.

When I work with couples I utilize Emotionally Focused Therapy to break out of the negative cycles. This brings relief and understanding especially when couples feel that they have had the same argument over and over again. I enjoy couples that feel deeply connected and yet they keep bumping into each other emotionally, with a sense that their childhood experiences play a large role in what is happening now in their relationships. If your relationship feels strong, but parenting and life changes, especially for neurodiverse families who feel like they keep missing the intimacy they once had need a place to be held and understood, I might be a great support for you.

I have clinical experience working with couples navigating addictions, with a particular focus in sexual and porn or cybersex addiction/complusivity. I find that I’m drawn to people who are transitioning from one stage of life to another, whether it is newly married and starting a family or just divorcing. I love helping people find their voice, to better understand themselves within the chaos of life. I believe that self-awareness can help people have stronger and more meaningful relationships.

It can be easier to sit down and talk to someone new if you know a bit about them. I come from a large musical family from New England. I grew up right here in the Hudson Valley, have lived all over the country, and I have now moved my family back to my home town of Beacon so my inquisitive son can grow up close to his grandparents, just like I enjoyed so much as a child. I have a mixed race background, primarily African-American, Caucasian, and Japanese. I am married and my husband happens to be mixed as well, so I know personally the challenges and joys this can bring. I take this knowledge into therapy with me adding an understanding to working with mixed race couples and how our families and cultures can give us such drastically different understands on what communication and connection should feel like in a marriage. 

Because of all of the cultures in my life, I love to cook and travel. As a teenager I was diagnosed with celiac disease, an autoimmune disease that makes it so I can’t digest gluten. I love exploring restaurants and cooking gluten free. I am passionate about helping those newly diagnosed navigate the complexities of the disease.

When I am not holding space for others healing, I love exploring new recipes, reading, hiking and spending time at the beach with my partner, children and chosen family.

I am also a sex and relationship writer, speaker, activist and consultant focused on intersectional identity development and connection.

You can submit your questions and read my monthly advice column here: Can We Talk?

I am licensed in North Carolina, New York, and Minnesota - MN practice link- ONLINE THERAPY